Wednesday, October 28, 2009


Warrent for it's arrest: Killing girls all over the world.

Sure it may sound a bit dramatic, we know in most cases insecurity doesn't kill anyone physically, but it can kill a person internally. Have you ever seen a person fade away before your eyes? A person once so lively, now emotionally dead. Are you that person? At one point or another we've all faced the giant of insecurity. Oh the tears we've cried in vain because somehow we believe we don't quite measure up, whether a person is insecure about their looks, who they are, or their skills, insecurity creeps in every form, lingering about for its next prey.

I'm not here to pretend life is perfect. I'm here to let you know you are not alone! I am battling the same struggle, but I'm also here to tell you that there is a purpose in our struggles. Growth & support. To lean on and help one another. Often times when I fall into my slumps, I feel alone, wondering if I'm the only one. If any of you feel the same way I'm here to tell you, you're not alone, there of thousands of people feeling the way you do. Me included!

I found this post on
and I thought I would share it with you.

People who are insecure can:

  • Have difficulties in establishing healthy, long-lasting relationships.

  • Be perceived incorrectly by others as being snobbish or uppity; therefore, they are avoided due to the others' misperceptions.

  • Become victims of fears that impair their freedom of action or choice.

  • Be candidates for paranoia feeling "others'' are out to get them.

  • Scare others away from them by their defensive attitude.

  • Be over-controlled emotionally, having problems letting others in on their emotions. This can lead others to guess what is going on until the passivity of the insecure person leads to an over-reaction by the others, resulting in conflict or rejection.

  • Have problems on the job or in school when they have the knowledge, skills and abilities to do a task efficiently but are told to do it in a different, less effective manner. They get so uptight about the job and are fearful of standing up for what they believe that they get angry, hostile, and resentful until they either quit or succeed in submerging their emotions.

  • Get passed over for promotions, advances, or honors because they are so quiet about what it is they do. This leads the insecure persons to feel more unaccepted, unappreciated, and under-valued.

  • Have problems meeting people and often can become debilitated socially by chronic shyness.

Become so inward that they seek to escape into their fantasy life rather than deal with the reality of their lives.

These side effects are not much fun for anyone who has or is experiencing them. Do not lose hope.

1. You're not alone.
2. We are our own worst critics, truth of the matter, probably no one else sees you the way you see
3. Try and block your negative self-talk. (easier said than done)
4. Tell yourself you are beautiful, even if you don't believe it at first, eventually someday you will :D
5. If you feel uncomfortable talking with people, start slowly, but take yourself out of that comfort
     zone and chatter up a stranger, read up on communication skills, perhaps take a speech class.
6. If you're feeling ugly, start working out and eating healthy, and spoiling yourself with girly things,
     for some reason it tends to help, at least for the moment.
7. Try to surround yourself with people who are encouraging and lift you up :D Friends that put you
      down even jokingly for the time being, probably aren't the best for you to be around. Sure you
       laugh at the moment, but when insecure thoughts start creeping in, it only feeds on the words you
       once laughed at.
8. Try new things, find something you enjoy. Remember even if you're not so good at something in  
     the beginning, no one got anywhere over night. It took lots of hardwork, practice, and mess ups. :D

Please, in no way think I've got all the answers or that I am good at keeping up with any of these. All these things are a lot easier said then done, especially in those low moments where you don't seem to think straight. Just know, we're in this together.

If you have a friend or family member who is insecure, be patient and understanding. You can play a big role in that person's growth. If that person doesn't take your compliments very well, don't take it personal, that person isn't trying to take away from your kind words, that person just can't understand how it can relate to them. Encourage and lift up, but most of all be patient and help them grow. :D

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 5For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. 6If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort. 2 Corinthians 1-7.

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